When a group resists having a leader, this is an indicator that the leader is viewed as someone without authority or influence. Work on building trust with each person. It is important that you explore what sort of boss they had in the past. Jumpstart by asking each person to describe the sort of leader that would be respected.
Once you have this information, I suggest that you work towards being the type of leader that the team needs. However, you do not need to give up your style or uniqueness; just use your talents to deliver what they are looking for.